Learning to cope with anger is extremely important, as anger is actually quite problematic. It is common for us – mortal beings – to blow our tops over some thing or the other in day-to-day situations. We often lose control of ourselves in testing times of pain, irritation, harassment, threat or ridicule. Anger is both a friend and foe for us. If managed properly, like in the case of someone threatening us, anger more often than not turns out to be our best friend.
Likewise, too much of aggression or complete loss of control in a fit of anger puts our opponent in a winning position. Success in all ventures and protection from harm are the results of holding the reins of our thoughts and emotions strongly. Such overall control helps us deal with all kinds of problems – financial as well as health-related. The confused state of fury is not only dangerous to our physical well-being, but also aggravates all our existing problems.
If one has to deal with anger, it indirectly means that he/she fails to notice other problems. At times, such a person refuses to admit to his mistakes. This denial actually is the underlying reason for the inability in overcoming the problems. One more reason is that ‘acceptance’ of the mistake does not find the requisite supporting force. The debate about diagnosis appears a never ending one, even for experts of Mental Health. These experts create a category in the name of diagnosis, and place the patient in an endless struggle.
This is not wise practice, as, for finding a solution to a problem, the ‘patient’ needs to know what exactly his/her problem really is. This can be termed as acceptance. Furthermore, the ‘patient’ is totally perplexed at the thought of having to undergo the ordeal of diagnosis, so that someone can pinpoint his/her problem. As it is, life is a vicious circle of problems, and the ‘patient’ is at a loss to figure out going-ons. Without the root of the problem, there is almost no cure. Certain forces or people trigger the emotion of anger, which keeps getting worse with time.
There is a limit to the levels of human endurance, beyond which the only choice left before a person is – to explode. Moreover, some kind of mental illness and/or excessive drinking of liquor or drugs give root to other problems. Though this is not necessarily the case with all people showing ‘anger’ symptoms, these other problems need a more immediate attention than anger itself. Similarly, a person with a mental illness may not be an alcoholic or a drug addict, and anger too has no relation with a mental illness.
The foundation of anger lies in the mind. Some past incident could be the cause of interruption of a person’s emotions. Something could have been wrongly taught in the early years of life. It is not easy to overcome emotions, which can actually make a person feel totally drained out. Hence, the ability to deal with emotions and feelings is the only way to combat the problem. You learn the art of self-control when you are persistent in your efforts of gaining control over situations, and enjoying a sense of accomplishment. For effectively dealing with your emotions, you can seek the help of someone whom you can trust completely.
In this way, you can control your emotions, and discover yourself. As the surroundings and functions affect your behavior patterns, only a positive environment help you master the art of self-control. Negative factors have negative effects on our habits as we advance in age; hence interaction with optimistic people can benefit our behavior. It is a fact that we have to deal with the process of functions.
Loss of control is inevitable in case body and mind do not function properly. Anger is aggravated by attitudes; implying that negative thinking will always have negative impacts. So, it is important to practice positive thinking to improve your life, enable you manage all your emotions, anger inclusive. Circumstances and persons involved are factors that help to cope with anger.