Self-esteem is something we all have. It can be developed and improved even further as we grow older so there is the chance that we can become better people. But how do we do that? Well by following some simple steps.
The first step is to accept yourself as you are. We are only human and there are limits to what we can do. While there are some limitations that can be changed, there are some that can’t. For instance, if you don’t do well in maths, you can get help so you can have a better grade in the future. On the other hand, if you want to buy a car and you don’t have the funds right now, well you just have to accept this is not possible now.
Apart from knowing your limits, you have to understand that people have their own limits as well and you have to accept them for who they are.
The second step is to understand that you have self-worth. You are important to your family, to your friends and to society. You may not be running a country or a business but your contribution as an employee, as a breadwinner to the family and a listener when your friends need someone to talk to has value.
If you know your limits and you have a certain purpose in life, it is time to set sensible goals. When you plan what you want to do, make sure that this can be done over time and not overnight. For instance, if you want to lose weight, you have to do this gradually and once you achieve it after several months, you will be happy with what you have achieved.
Each one of us has experienced something different in our lives. This depends on the people we meet and the challenges that we have faced. With that, you can take mistakes made as lessons for the future and achievements as things that could push you further. Since you don’t want to rest on your laurels, set your own standards and live by them.
The last thing you have to do to build up your self-esteem is simply to learn to love yourself. If you want to do something, go ahead and try it even if there are some people who may discourage you from doing it.
If you did a great job, give yourself a pat on the back and reward yourself because how you see yourself will be seen by other people. As you learn to value who you are, it will be easier for you to be appreciative of others.
We all have self-esteem and we just have to maintain it or try to make it even better. If you need help in building it, try seeing a specialist or buying a book or recording to study at home. Remember that these things are just tools and in the end, what is important is how you see yourself.
It is also your life and you are the one who sets the direction. Not your friends, family or loved ones but it wouldn’t hurt to consult them because these people also care about you.