Motivational speakers and other self-improvement experts are often called out as being nothing more than people who try to make you feel good about yourself as you are by telling you what you want to hear. There are of course plenty of speakers out there who are guilty of pandering and not really telling it like it is, since there is money to be made by telling people that everything is great and that they don’t need to make changes in their lives for things to improve.
However, Anthony Robbins is not one of these speakers; he’s not afraid to tell it like it is and to let you know about the mistakes people make. He tells you about the things which you need to face up to in order to improve your life and doesn’t pull his punches when it comes to telling us what we really need to do to become successful. This straightforward attitude is why he’s one of the world’s best known speakers and top selling authors. He tells the truth about how to become a success in the real world – not some rose-colored fantasy land.
Anthony Robbins lets us hold the mirror up to ourselves to see how we really behave and encourages us to take responsibility for our own lives and our own success. Robbins teaches that the reason a lot of people fail to succeed is that the place the blame for their failures anywhere except for where it really belongs – on ourselves. It’s natural to want to blame something which is out of your control, but really, only you can make you a success or a failure. When we make something else – the government, the economy or a vengeful god our scapegoat, we feel OK about our failings; Robbins teaches people to take charge of their lives and to build success for themselves.
When you rationalize away your problems, you aren’t motivated to make the changes you need to improve your life. Blaming external forces is admitting defeat and making it OK for us to give up.
Playing the blame game is a self defeating strategy which changes nothing. Whether or not you want to hear it, Robbins is so well respected precisely because he makes us face ourselves and shows us that no good can come of blaming anything but yourself when you don’t succeed. The quicker you can stop blaming everyone and everything but yourself and begin taking responsibility for your life, the quicker you’ll be on your way to personal empowerment and success.
Rather than looking on failure as something to be ashamed of, Robbins shows you how to look at these events as learning opportunities. When you have the strength to face and learn from your failures, you’ll be able to avoid making the same mistakes in the future and to turn failure into success. Rather than trying to decide who to blame, look at every failure as a lesson which can lead to future successes.
When we allow failure and blame to take over, we lose our ambition. If you let failure discourage you and blame it on others, your dreams will wither and die. Your ambition and your drive to make your goals a reality is the real prize – there’s no shame in failing, but it is shameful to give up and abandon your dreams.
Every setback can be turned around and made into a triumph. Make your failures a treasury of life lessons and use your dreams as a template for future success. Don’t throw away your dreams because you don’t make it work the first time around. Dust yourself off and come up with a new plan, your sights set on success. When you take your failures and make them into successes, you take control of your life – and this is the way that successful people think about life.