What is self-esteem? It is merely an opinion of how you see yourself. There are two types namely high self-esteem and low self-esteem and between the two, it is better to have the first. This is because high self-esteem enables you to love yourself for who you are while low self-esteem doesn’t make you grow as a person and make you successful.
But where do you get self-esteem? Well as a child, you get it from your parents. If they raised you right and praised you for your achievements, chances are you will have a positive outlook of yourself and life. If you happen to be raised by parents who are not very caring, well you won’t see the positive qualities you have and will have an angry outlook at the world.
You can also get this from your friends and your peers because sometimes, how we feel about ourselves is based on the opinion of others. If you are able to ignore the negative sentiment, you are fine because you don’t let such words affect you.
In the end though, your self-esteem comes from inside you. To figure that out, you can ask yourself some simple questions. Do you like who you are? Are you happy? Do you think you are a good person? Most of the time, the answer is yes even if sometimes you have doubts about yourself.
To get rid of those doubts, well you should first accept your faults and realize that you are not the only one that has this problem. Everyone has a few flaws that they want to get rid of so you must have the willingness to change to improve yourself.
Another thing you should accept is that you are different from the rest. This is not only your physical qualities but also who you are personally just like each person has their own set of fingerprints that can never be duplicated by anyone else.
For those that need help, well they can get counseling to improve their self-esteem or listen to self-help tapes that are designed to do the same thing as well.
Another technique which won’t cost you a thing will be to write down on a piece of paper 50 things you like about yourself and then cherishing it. Since we grow and change every single day, try to write down one good thing you did about yourself daily so you can look up and realize that you are not a bad person.
When you have high self-esteem, you are less likely to do anything destructive to yourself or to others. This is because you have a positive outlook about life and are always optimistic about the future. With that, you can probably say you can get anything you want out of life when you have this quality but remember not to confuse it with being too overconfident because there are two different things.
Another benefit of high self-esteem is being able to have an easier time handling problems and resisting negative pressures. But we should not forget that is something that we inherit and not something we are born with. This can change in the years to come only if we allow it and if this happens, hopefully we can be better than who we were before rather than going the opposite direction.