How can negative self-esteem spill over into your life and affect everything you say and do? Read this one particular account, and ask yourself if it has a familiar ring.
“They used to say I was born with a fork in my mouth. I was always told to eat everything on my plate. Growing up in an Italian family, while our meals primarily consisted of pasta and bread; I wouldn’t consider myself to be someone who ate constantly. The overriding factor contributing to my weight was sweets. In addition, I inherited my father’s genes; which unfortunately consisted of a large frame, and a tendency to gain weight more easily. Conversely, my mother’s side of the family was thin. To add insult to injury, my sister was fortunate enough to inherit my mom’s genes.”
My early childhood years were painful, to say the least. Attending elementary school posed many problems. Since uniforms were mandatory, I was unable to find a store that would accommodate my size. I was laughed at; made fun of; and as a result, became extremely shy and introverted. I would always sit in the last row in class; did not have many friends; and realized soon enough I was not like everyone else. While my parents were always telling me how beautiful I was, I didn’t believe it. Eventually, I withdrew; going through the motions of living a normal life; but not. As teenager, it was even more difficult to form friendships. To compensate, I read books; listened to music and thought that if I were intelligent enough, I would be included. It didn’t happen. If I attended a high school function, I usually went alone, but was never asked to dance. I became used to being ignored. I developed a low self-esteem which took over my life for the next thirty years.”
Low self-esteem can be devastating, especially for children. If not dealt with, it can spill over into adulthood as described in the story. It can invade every part of your life; forming friendships; engaging in relationships; taking care of family and home, and decrease the desire to live a full and happy life.
To improve your self-esteem, it is necessary to find the underlying cause. Professional help may be warranted. Speaking to someone who can be totally objective can have a profound affect on the path you will eventually take to free yourself from this internal bondage. It takes courage and determination to face your own fears and to seek help. You can be assured; however, once you do there will be no need to ever look back.
It’s time to get out of your own way, and find the truth within. Self-esteem issues can be resolved. All it takes is one step toward the direction of the light; leave the darkness forever behind you.